So I shared some insight on a subject with a co-worker today. Not sure how it exactly came up, but I felt a wealth of knowledge on this situation. We were talking about relationships and friendships and how after years of being "friends" with someone, it can just disappear.
When you are younger, everyone you meet is a friend. Not an acquaintance, but a friend. As you get older, life changes, you grow, and you're not as close to these friends as you once where. It's easy to say you'll get together, but it doesn't always happen. And neither of you want to stay apart, you actually do want to talk about life and the world and what's new. But for the most part, you talk and talk about getting together, but rarely does it happen.
What ever happened to calling someone? With the social sites of myspace, facebook and twitter, even email and texting for that matter, phone calls are really non-existent. I use the phone to call my bank, make payments for bills and order a pizza, but I can do all of those things online too. Why can't I call "friends" and family and speak to them instead of sending an email or texting or sending a message on facebook. Have we all gotten too busy to take a few moments and talk to each other?
I remember the day when I could rattle off phone numbers and addresses of friends and family. I would talk for hours to friends on the phone and call my aunts in CA just to say hi. What do I do now, send them a text or say hi on Facebook. Why? Why can't I just pick up the dang phone and say hi. I called my grandma this morning. She was surprised to hear from me. That's sad. Family should be talking to family regularly. I miss the days of talking on the phone. Now days with cell phones you can talk anywhere to anyone; I love that. How come we don't do it more?
Where would we be without texting? What did we do before texting? Can you remember back that far? Would we have better relationships with our friends and family without texting or messaging on facebook? Just a question. Did we have bad relationships with them then? No.
Can we ever go back to the days of writing letters? Not typed, hand written. I heard from a friend that she received a love letter from her boyfriend. Not a message in her inbox, not a text on her phone. A real, hand written love letter. It blew her away that people still did that. I, myself, haven't written a letter in years. I used to all the time to family, friends that had moved away, etc. It's nice to know that there are still people out there that think you are worth the time to write and the 44 cent stamp.
The simpler times, were the best times! Sitting around with my cousins on our last family trip about 2 weeks ago. We reminisced about the good 'ol times back in the day. When families got together, talked, had fun. Relationships were good back then. Would they be better if we talked more? Got to hear each others voices and not the typed word on the screen? It's more personal and it shows that you care and are making the effort. That's all anyone wants. They want to know that they are worth the effort to make a relationship better.
However you communicate is your own prerogative. Just communicate in a way that shows you care. Whatever the form, whatever the content, it's better than nothing.
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