So I shared some insight on a subject with a co-worker today. Not sure how it exactly came up, but I felt a wealth of knowledge on this situation. We were talking about relationships and friendships and how after years of being "friends" with someone, it can just disappear.
When you are younger, everyone you meet is a friend. Not an acquaintance, but a friend. As you get older, life changes, you grow, and you're not as close to these friends as you once where. It's easy to say you'll get together, but it doesn't always happen. And neither of you want to stay apart, you actually do want to talk about life and the world and what's new. But for the most part, you talk and talk about getting together, but rarely does it happen.
What ever happened to calling someone? With the social sites of myspace, facebook and twitter, even email and texting for that matter, phone calls are really non-existent. I use the phone to call my bank, make payments for bills and order a pizza, but I can do all of those things online too. Why can't I call "friends" and family and speak to them instead of sending an email or texting or sending a message on facebook. Have we all gotten too busy to take a few moments and talk to each other?
I remember the day when I could rattle off phone numbers and addresses of friends and family. I would talk for hours to friends on the phone and call my aunts in CA just to say hi. What do I do now, send them a text or say hi on Facebook. Why? Why can't I just pick up the dang phone and say hi. I called my grandma this morning. She was surprised to hear from me. That's sad. Family should be talking to family regularly. I miss the days of talking on the phone. Now days with cell phones you can talk anywhere to anyone; I love that. How come we don't do it more?
Where would we be without texting? What did we do before texting? Can you remember back that far? Would we have better relationships with our friends and family without texting or messaging on facebook? Just a question. Did we have bad relationships with them then? No.
Can we ever go back to the days of writing letters? Not typed, hand written. I heard from a friend that she received a love letter from her boyfriend. Not a message in her inbox, not a text on her phone. A real, hand written love letter. It blew her away that people still did that. I, myself, haven't written a letter in years. I used to all the time to family, friends that had moved away, etc. It's nice to know that there are still people out there that think you are worth the time to write and the 44 cent stamp.
The simpler times, were the best times! Sitting around with my cousins on our last family trip about 2 weeks ago. We reminisced about the good 'ol times back in the day. When families got together, talked, had fun. Relationships were good back then. Would they be better if we talked more? Got to hear each others voices and not the typed word on the screen? It's more personal and it shows that you care and are making the effort. That's all anyone wants. They want to know that they are worth the effort to make a relationship better.
However you communicate is your own prerogative. Just communicate in a way that shows you care. Whatever the form, whatever the content, it's better than nothing.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Great Family Outing!
We had a great family trip to Rockaway Beach, OR last weekend for my Grandma's 80th birthday. Most everyone drove there on Friday, but Jerry had to work so we left at about 6:30pm, ran into some traffic, made a few stops and got there at 12:15am. This trip should have only take about 4 1/2 hours, but bumper to bumper and big thumper had to rehydrate and pee a few times. But it was fun.
On Saturday we all got up, headed down to hear the shpeel from the Resort and get donuts and coffee. It was very informative and we did a few things he suggested. We all then got in our cars, drove south to the Tillamook Cheese Factory and took the self guided tour. If you like watching people wrap cheese, this is your place. Order of the day was Pepper Jack Cheese - only the best cheese in the world! The best part was sampling some cheese and going through the shop and buying some pepperoni and various cheeses. (Only to know later, I forgot my pepperoni in the resort, boo!)
After the cheesy goodness, we went to the Petting Farm where the kids had a blast, petting the animals. Nevaeh almost had a little too much fun when the goat kept backing up into her face while she was sitting down. Too much fun! Cole and Zeke went on a pony ride in the ring. Zeke was a champ with no fear! Cole needed a little help by mommy Mandy, but he did the last lap himself. Yahoo! I got some great shots of both of them on the horses.
Then we all went our separate ways, some to food and others back to the rooms. Stopped off at Pizza Hut - Jerry has to have his p'zones! Then we all went back to the resort.
The next day, Sunday, Jerry and I decided to have some time to ourselves, get away from kids and the "adults" and go have some fun. We went to lunch at the Beach Bite, good food, amazing Bread bowl with chowder! Then off to the arcade. I beat him at Deal or No Deal and Skeeball, but he killed me in Basketball and the horse race. We used our tickets and bought a few things for the kids to play with like mini whoopi cushions. They loved those and so did their parents.
Also on Sunday, Jerry, my dad, my mom and I attempted to go bike riding. We had been riding around for a little bit until Jerry was testing the shocks on his bike and popped the tire tube. We had tire tubes...in Skylar's car...which was about 40 miles away as they were in Seaside shopping the outlets. So Jerry had to walk the bike back about 2 miles. We all slowly followed him and stopped at the Picnic Basket where they had ice cream so we could cheer him up. Great place and ginormous portions!
Sunday night we had a beach fire. That was the best time, just all of us sitting around talking and making smores. The best smore maker was my dad and my aunt Laurie. Nicely golden brown and she added a Reese' cup! I copied her and now I'm hooked! It's delish! A few of us rebel youngins stayed until after midnight while the rest of them left at about 10. It was great to sit back with my brother, my husband and a few cousins to just chat about the 'good ol times.' Lots of memories came flooding back, some good, some bad, but all in all it was a great time.
Jerry and I left the next day to return to real life. He had to work and so did I.
Next year, we plan to do this again with the family and try to make it an annual event for my grandma's birthday and for the summer. We all have such busy lives, it's nice to get away and get to know each other again!
On Saturday we all got up, headed down to hear the shpeel from the Resort and get donuts and coffee. It was very informative and we did a few things he suggested. We all then got in our cars, drove south to the Tillamook Cheese Factory and took the self guided tour. If you like watching people wrap cheese, this is your place. Order of the day was Pepper Jack Cheese - only the best cheese in the world! The best part was sampling some cheese and going through the shop and buying some pepperoni and various cheeses. (Only to know later, I forgot my pepperoni in the resort, boo!)
After the cheesy goodness, we went to the Petting Farm where the kids had a blast, petting the animals. Nevaeh almost had a little too much fun when the goat kept backing up into her face while she was sitting down. Too much fun! Cole and Zeke went on a pony ride in the ring. Zeke was a champ with no fear! Cole needed a little help by mommy Mandy, but he did the last lap himself. Yahoo! I got some great shots of both of them on the horses.
Then we all went our separate ways, some to food and others back to the rooms. Stopped off at Pizza Hut - Jerry has to have his p'zones! Then we all went back to the resort.
The next day, Sunday, Jerry and I decided to have some time to ourselves, get away from kids and the "adults" and go have some fun. We went to lunch at the Beach Bite, good food, amazing Bread bowl with chowder! Then off to the arcade. I beat him at Deal or No Deal and Skeeball, but he killed me in Basketball and the horse race. We used our tickets and bought a few things for the kids to play with like mini whoopi cushions. They loved those and so did their parents.
Also on Sunday, Jerry, my dad, my mom and I attempted to go bike riding. We had been riding around for a little bit until Jerry was testing the shocks on his bike and popped the tire tube. We had tire tubes...in Skylar's car...which was about 40 miles away as they were in Seaside shopping the outlets. So Jerry had to walk the bike back about 2 miles. We all slowly followed him and stopped at the Picnic Basket where they had ice cream so we could cheer him up. Great place and ginormous portions!
Sunday night we had a beach fire. That was the best time, just all of us sitting around talking and making smores. The best smore maker was my dad and my aunt Laurie. Nicely golden brown and she added a Reese' cup! I copied her and now I'm hooked! It's delish! A few of us rebel youngins stayed until after midnight while the rest of them left at about 10. It was great to sit back with my brother, my husband and a few cousins to just chat about the 'good ol times.' Lots of memories came flooding back, some good, some bad, but all in all it was a great time.
Jerry and I left the next day to return to real life. He had to work and so did I.
Next year, we plan to do this again with the family and try to make it an annual event for my grandma's birthday and for the summer. We all have such busy lives, it's nice to get away and get to know each other again!
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